Stressed. Overcommitted. Tired. Frustrated. Guilty. Did I mention tired? This has been my life over the last few years. Sound familiar to anyone else? You see, I’m a “yes” girl. I just can’t help myself sometimes. I don’t want to let anyone down and so the word “yes,” just slips out of my mouth without warning. It always starts out innocently enough. I agree to bring the meal to the church Bible study on a Sunday night and then I realize that I’ve also agreed to help print flyers for PTO for the following day. And wait–my daughter has ballet the night before, so maybe I can run to the grocery after I drop her off and deliver that meal I promised to bring to a friend who just had a baby. Before I know it, I’m overcommitted, worn out and those things that I started out doing with a joyful heart have instead given me a bad attitude.
Don’t get me wrong…I love helping others. In fact, a couple of my spiritual gifts that God has blessed me with is that of encouragement and service. And you are probably the same way.
But let me tell you something, sweet sister, I believe we miss out on God’s purpose for our lives when we don’t focus our time and attention in those areas where we really feel called by him.
And let me tell you, this has been a recent epiphany in my life and something that God has been trying to get me to see for years. In fact, I also feel that it was something that contributed to the failure of my marriage. When I was first approached by my dear, sweet friend Lisa Rippy to join the Interior Inspirations Team, I told her I’d have to pray about this endeavor as I didn’t know how a single mother with two small children, a full-time job, a side-business in a network marketing company, Vice President of PTO and church preschool worker who also suffers with fibromyalgia daily could juggle one more thing.
I asked God to clearly show me what He wanted me to do and He responded with two things. 1) He assured me that there’s purpose in my pain and that I needed to share with others. 2) Set your mind on the things above, not on the things that are on earth. Colossians 3:2
Honestly, I still didn’t fully process what this would mean in my life until a few weeks ago when it came time to once again select next year’s board members for PTO at my children’s school. I was approached and asked if I would continue to serve. Although I love being an integral part of this organization, I felt God impressing upon my heart that I needed to “spring clean” my schedule just as I spring clean my home. I had to take a good, hard look at the activities that I’m involved in. After serving on the PTO for three years, I felt like it was time for me to pass the torch to someone else knowing that I have many more years to get involved again.
Let me assure you that spring cleaning my schedule and focusing my attention more on the things that I feel God is calling me to do isn’t something that will happen overnight. I’m sure that I will still be tempted to overcommit in an attempt to people please. Yet, I’m drawing strength from my Heavenly Father to guide me and direct me towards the things He feels have kingdom potential rather than letting my own thoughts, feelings or guilt influence my focus, time and schedule.
What about you, sweet sister? Are you tired? Do you feel overcommitted? How do you best spring clean your schedule for God? I’d love to chat with you.
Love and Blessings,
Sara if I didn’t know better I would think you were talking about me. I am so guilty of saying yes to everything anyone ask me to do. I am trying very hard to say no, but find it so difficult because I don’t want to let anyone down.
I completely understand, Nicole! I’m learning though that if people really love you..they are still going to love you anyway. And you don’t have to stop serving, but how much we do doesn’t determine our value and worth. Praying that we can conquer this as a sisterhood!
This was such a good reminder! I’m still learning the process of giving my “Best Yes” and it has been life changing for me!