Q&A – Dating, Sex Before Marriage, Mental Sex, Pornography, Abuse in Marriage

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It’s early in the morning as I’m sitting here working on this post and while typing out this first sentence, I’m so prayerful for all of the content to be first approved and guided and fully sustained by the Holy Spirit.

I can’t begin to tell you the number of conversations with young women I’ve experienced who are dating, living with their boyfriends, considering engagement, is a newlywed, and now married, who are dealing with sexual issues, pornography, mental sex, lack of trust, feeling stuck, regret and shame, facing consequences, battle fears and anxiety, they feel hypocritical, unfaithfulness in dating and now in marriage through pornography and other expressions of lack of self-control, anger, abusive controlling behaviors, plagued now with doubt, no meaningful physical touch in their marriage, lack of intimacy, too much arguing, etc. …. some of the issues are:

  • their boyfriend/husband lusting after other women
  • porn that was in the dating relationship (supposedly repented of) yet, is still in their marriage
  • a lack of respect for each other that started after they were first sexual with each other in their dating relationship
  • married but no longer as attracted to each other as they were when dating
  • deep bitterness and frustration because of lack of self-control; harsh expectations
  • lack of genuine trust in the relationship
  • thinking that ‘a little bit of porn’ is needed in the marriage in order to be stimulated
  • together sexually/physically/intimately while thinking of someone else
  • shame and guilt from living together and/or having sex outside of marriage

John Piper has several 10-12 minute clips that address some of these areas. So, as I have been struggling in writing this post from “me to you” I felt it may be more well received it you could hear directly from a man God has used and is continuing to use in helping men and women understand some of these areas where ‘personal opinion’ could so easily form behaviors and mind-sets, instead of God’s heart… His Living Word.

I pray that you are encouraged in your personal relationship with God as you listen and apply these truths from Scripture into your relationships. And as usual, if you have any questions, or simply want to pray together, talk together, you know I’m always here for you.

I love you dearly,

Lisa

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lisa Rippy

I’m Lisa Rippy, a happily married woman to my wonderful Rip. We have 5 children and we live right outside of Madison, MS. For as long as I can remember, I’ve always had a love for all things “homey” from decorating, simplifying, remodeling, organizing and simply turning a house into a "Home Sweet Home." My passion is helping families live the life they long for in the interior of their hearts and homes. It all requires thought, planning and work that Rip and I both love to do! But if there is anything at all I can do to help you and your home life, please reach out to me. Nothing would thrill me more than to inspire YOUR heart and home!

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